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 Post subject: The interweb and you.
PostPosted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 9:04 pm 
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So, I've been doing alot of thinking (read: I'm getting drunk).

Most of you only know me from the forums, so you only get that snapshot of what I'm like as a person. But, most of this persona (Skjie) is me just having fun, and is hardly a representation of myself as a person, as people who meet me IRL note.

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How similar to your real life persona is your interweb one? And, if they are different, why? Do you think it is partially lying, misrepresenting yourself, or is it a natural part of the internet?

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PostPosted: Sat Sep 18, 2004 9:22 pm 
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Hard to say.

This is me, or at least what I would be without inhibitions and limits (if you think I'm uptight and conservative now, wait till you meet me face to face). This is not a fabricated persona, or at least if it used to be then I've changed to reflect it. I guess the difference is based in the fact that no one here knows me so I can act more openly without worrying about how it would affect my life outside of the internet. As for the last question, it's a mix of the two. The combination of anonymity on the internet allows a person all the freedom they want in how they present themselves and will affect how they choose to.


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Hrm. As far as basic personality structure goes, it's pretty similar. The major difference between here and the real world is that I'm much more composed and generally outgoing here. In the real world, I'm nervous, flaky, and am uncomfortable in most situations. While my online persona reflects all these aspects, they're to a much lesser degree. To give an example of this difference, if you were to ask me this same question in a real-world context, I would say something like, "Oh, I don't know... they're kinda similar, I guess. I am who I am." and kinda avoid answering.

As far as why it's so different on the internet... I'd say it's about control. Here, I have the option of engaging in socialization when I want, ending it when I want, and doing what I want in between. The real world doesn't afford such luxaries.

And for the last question, I consider my online persona to be just as valid as my offline persona, and vice versa. I've long since outgrown the idea of there being a "core" me. Basically, I am the person I pretend to be.


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Well, it follows along with my views on personal attachment via the internet. I do not lie about myself, and the things I say here are roughly the same as you would, should you meet me. However, I tend to only reveal information when asked and only if I get the feeling that it's trusted, which is rare. I don't volunteer information, and I don't (knowingly, I wasn't paying attention to the drama I was involved in) put my emotions online (it's a stoicism thing), so you really only get my conciousness. As warm and friendly as it is cold and unfeeling.

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According to my old highschool yearbook, I take "a cavalier attitude," "act like a crazy jew" (e.g. when bored, I occasionally pelvic thrust), "are loyal," "genius" (yes, that last one is included because I'm a jackass), "a stabilizing influence," "generous" as well as "cheerful." Oh, and I possess "great dancing" skills. According to my good friend Spencer, I'm a "jackass" (I often take the opportunity to show off, when it presents itself).

On the internet...well, form your own opinions. I tend to think I too easily pick up the habits of others' (e.g. postwhoring from Ero, homoerotic banter from Ez, hypocritical jackassery from Mibbers), but can't really comment on how nice I am or anythiung, though I'm inclined to believe I'm MUCH more of a malicious ass. But that's just my opinion; you guys probably know internet me better.

Why, now? It's not because, necessarily, that I interact with you guys less (I talk more to I_M than any number of random passerbys who I'm not a jackass to). But, like I said, I picked up how to communicate in this media from those around me. Which can be a bad thing.

It's not intentional, that's for certain.


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I'm more open and honest online with those I don't know well (fucked up no?) because I don't have to care near as much about what people think of me.

Oddly, and proving my friend Laura's theory, people like me more and more easily online than in person.

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I masturbate less than I say I do on the net.

Other than that I'm pretty much the same, a little more cautious in real life but that has more to do with the fact that there are more girls around in the real world and I tend to be more polite around them.

So I'd say that the Internet me is a bit more extroverted than the real-life me.
But all in all mostly the same.

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I have difficulty telling the difference. Especially between my AIM personality and my forum/LJ personality and how to compare that to my real life personality.

- I will use a larger vocabulary when I'm actaully talking in real life, because I don't know how to spell half the words I know. Though I manage to look up a few words when in this forum.
- I tend to say the same thing over again when I'm arguing something IRL, and I'm much better composed online. Writing things gives me a chance to edit. Where as I have a very chaotic thought process, so it's difficult for me to organize my thoughts before I speak them aloud.
- I'm just as honest here as I am normally, generally speaking. I try to be an honest person, it's just easier for me to build and maintain relationships that way.
- I'm far more intimidated and shy when face to face with someone. Hard as it is to believe, I'm more relaxed most of the time I'm online.

On AIM/IRC, there's a whole world of difference. In one on one chats, I'm very quiet most of the time. In the chat room, I become really ultra-hyper and try to keep the room alive/interesting. Ez says that I'm completely different in there than I am normally.

And on the phone, I talk a lot more than I do face to face. So if you can stomach me on the phone, then there shouldn't be any problem putting up with me IRL.

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Hrm.. well..

I've been told that, online.. I act like I normally would, while drunk..
Which I thought was hilarious but.. yeah. >_>;

Most of the time, outside of irc/etc.. (on the phone is probably counted as part of that too...), I'm usually fairly quiet unless I really know someone well.. I mean, I'll say hi, but I'm not about to start jumping aroundi, etc..
Also, IRL, I am -very- rarely critical of anyone (unless I know them really well, and then its usually joking anyway).. whereas online, I tend to insult/criticise people a lot..

Basically, online, I'm an extroverted version of myself. :/ if that makes any sense at all, which it probably doesnt..

Anyway, yeah..

(oh, by the way, I was drunk while typing this.. ironic, isnt it?)


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- I tend to say the same thing over again when I'm arguing something IRL, and I'm much better composed online. Writing things gives me a chance to edit. Where as I have a very chaotic thought process, so it's difficult for me to organize my thoughts before I speak them aloud.

Everyone speaks first draft.

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How similar to your real life persona is your interweb one? And, if they are different, why?

Very similar. I'm both more open, and more guarded in what i say online, which doesn't make a whole lot of sense. I'm more open about some things, but i'm more guarded about others. Though i follow a generally similar pattern which i think holds true for most people. When i first join a community online or offline, it takes me a while to get a feeling for what is considered acceptable, so i tend to be quiet at first, become more outspoken as i become more comfortable.
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Do you think it is partially lying, misrepresenting yourself, or is it a natural part of the internet?

I think it's a natural part of all human relations, to be more careful about what you let people know when you first meet them, and as you become comfortable to be willing to reveal more about yourself and your opinions.

I also think that the internet is the only place where true roleplaying can take place, without the visual and auditory cues, you only have the person's online personnality to go by. A sort of meta-roleplaying, so to speak. You can be anyone you want to be, try out different personallities, different ideas. You can be more honest online, because noone has to know who you are, or you could be totally dishonest, because noone will be able to tell. Online, people tend to believe any reasonable claim, because there's no reason to lie.

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Wark wrote:
The major difference between here and the real world is that I'm much more composed and generally outgoing here.

I'd have to agree with Wark on that note, I do tend to be more outgoing and confident online than I am offline, and I'm sure I used to be more mischevious aswell, but as for now I honestly dont know.

Why? Well, I'd say its because I have no fear of making a fool of myself online, as I dont know you in an offline sense, or if I did know you in an offline sense, it would be very unlikely for me to see you in person again. Therefore I tend to be much more outgoing, perhaps not on the forum, but for certain on IM services.

I would say I have grown to be more like my online personality over the years. I used to be an awfully shy, selfconscious type a while back, but now I'd like to think of myself as alot more confident with myself.

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Hm, hm. . .
Online, it can be easier to talk about certain things, but at the same time harder, because you don't have tone of voice, body language, etc, to go off of when determining what a person really thinks and feels.
In real life and online, I tend to represent myself as an oddball gun nut, just because it's easier that way. I'm probably different somehow between online and IRL, but there's only a handful of people who would know.

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